My wife is not pleasuring me and i am getting somewhat fed up,advice?

I am 20 and my wife is 24 and well my wife is not pleasuring me anymore and i am getting rather fed up with it to be frank. We used to have sex ALL the time and now its down to around once a week. And she refuses to do oral sex anymore or try anything new and i am just not enjoying it anymore. And i am not sure what to do i am getting so friggen fed up i am ready to cheat. I know that sounds bad and probably is but this is just enough is enough with me. Advice?My wife is not pleasuring me and i am getting somewhat fed up,advice?
Have you talked with her calmly about this? Something may be really bothering her. Or, there could be a medical reason. Sit down with her and tell her calmly how you are feeling and then ask her to talk about what is going on with her.My wife is not pleasuring me and i am getting somewhat fed up,advice?
Try to pleasure her. A) you will get pleasure into pleasuring her. And B) she will want to return the favor. And when I say pleasure her, do something different and adventurist perhaps. Also be a bit more romantic with her. I mean romance without sex, this way you can try to rekindle the old feelings you had for each other.


DO not resolve it in cheating. That is only an excuse to run away from your problems. ANd even if she doesn't find out, you will feel like **** about yourself, and it will show bad character.
Hmm. Seeing as how you're low enough to even CONSIDER cheating on your wife, then you don't deserve sex. At all. With any woman.





It is not in your wife's job description to give you a ******* on the hour, every hour. You have sex once a week? Ha! Alot of us should be so lucky. Haven't you read any of the posts on this site? There are people who haven't had any in MONTHS.





You're a sex addict, and thats a HUGE turnoff. Get over yourself and leave your wife alone.
I wouldn't cheat. I would divorce first before I'd do that. What are you doing to put her in the mood? If you are like most men, you do whatever you want, then when you're ready, you expect her to be waiting. Well, she probably has been waiting. Waiting for you to appreciate her, be romantic, thoughtful. When was the last time you took her out? Gave her a massage? Bought her some lingerie? Told her what she means to you. A little effort could go a long way sometimes.
okay this is very common...and let me tell you from my own experience...i feel like your wife sometimes....and here;s why. at first guys are very caring and romantic and passionate...this makes us want to be intimate...its exciting and makes us feel sexy...then sometimes guys start acting like sex is a part of the deal...like we're supposed to instantly want to please you....so look at what you do..do you kiss her cheek and work your way into a make out session...then do foreplay and give her oral....massage her, etc? if not...she's not gonna be ready for anything. you have to get her in the mood yourself. dont get lazy. be romantic and passionate and sexy...and she will do the same.
If your attitude is the same on this forum as to your wife no wonder she dose not want to pleasure you. You are making it clear you don't enjoy it to strangers and sharing your ambitions to cheat, she has picked up on that and called your bluff. You are married now, do something romantic and nice you will be surprised.
Your wife no longer loves you the way she initially did. Why is that?





Until you can get her to really ';love'; you again - this will not change.





I know the rules regarding sex - married 20 years - figured out how to make wife happy at the beginning - she still really loves me - and she expresses that love sexually however and whenever I want.
i am married me and my husband berley have sex and we have been married two years i am 22 and he is 27... he deals with it i think you should to.
I think she is forcing you to cheat on her to absolve herself of guilt from her own cheating.





Do some investigation and I bet she's already cheating.
don't cheat. that will just make you the bad person in the end.


you never have to sink that low
why did you get married? I seriously don't get why people get married so early, like they got it all figured out. JESUS! No, no advice. Just get divorced and live a little more than settle down.
You should try to be nicer to her.
r u pleasuring HER!! if u r then how can she refuse when u r guiding her to change the sex position..be the man.make her want more of u..
option 1: she still loves you. if this is the case find out what her ';love language'; is. doing nice things around the house for her, buying her little presents, security, telling her she's beautiful. you will have to probe a little to find out what this is but once you do, do it all the time and she will perform. you gotta give to get. once you're giving and making her happy, tell her that what you need the most and what makes you happy, i.e. ';pleasuring you';





option 2: she doesn't love you. tell her you feel she doesn't love you anymore and that you'd like her to leave. in other words separate. don't cheat on her, give her time to either come around or bail. it'll happen one way or another quicker than you think once she's out of the house. make sure you let her know that you are 100% faithful to her and you always will be even during your separation. don't use this as an excuse to go out and party...





whatever happens, do it quick and decisively. don't leave any room for speculation as to what's going on. if you need to move out, then do it.