I can't believe that he just broke up with you over a text. What a coward! My heart goes out to you. I think you were only the rebound girl all this time. His ex-girlfriend may have hurt him, but he wasn't ready to let her go. She knows that she can have him any time she wants him and knows he will come running despite what he told you. The amazing night before was probably his farewell good bye and you didn't notice it.
This guy is very immature and is not ready for a commitment. If he gets his heart broken again and comes knocking at your door, you shouldn't be there to answer the door to pick up the pieces again.
Leave him alone and move on. You deserve honesty, respect, and love. Don't accept anything less than that.
Mean while, find new hobbies or friends to take up your time so that you can get over him. Meet new people. Even though you may not be ready with moving on with dating other people right now, it doesn't hurt to flirt with the idea of going out with other available men who can show you a good time. -You never know, lightning could strike!!!
Keep your head up and know that what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. -God Bless.I just need encouraging words or any advice to get through this...?
guys are liars and girls will rule the would one day.
is that what you call encouraging?
I'm so sorry, but don't worry, everything your feeling will heal with time. Right now just worry about other things in your life that you find important. From the sounds of it, he is very immature and you deserve a lot better anyway. I wish you the best of luck:)
This guy wasn't man enough to tell you the truth and instead he hid behind the lame excuse of a text message? His actions do not speak badly of you, but do say a lot about him. He's a coward and just not worth it. Period.
His parents, though not responsible, should have at least asked him to spend the night some place else. The fact that they allowed this person into their house knowing that he had a relationship with you shows their weak moral fiber. What can you expect? They definitely have no class, and neither does the cheater, which is probably a better fit for their son.
I know this hurts, but I hope you can stay put and get past this as soon as possible. Ignore this unworthy character and wipe him out of your life for good! Don't give him the satisfaction of answering his calls or worse: asking for an explanation. Take the higher road and block him off! You deserve a lot better.
You poor dear, and this is happening next door,two years, when he comes crawling back think about it, there's a reason she was the X and it's still going to be there this time around.There is so much hurt in this world. I'll say a prayer for you,
God bless
apparently boys like to break up with their girls over IM's and txt's. let him do what he's doing for now. he just let go of an amazing thing and he will be dealing with the consequences later once he finds out that his ex girlfriend is still a cheating wh***.
go have a girls night, go to a salon, buy some new clothes. re-invent yourself. thankfully, you found out what he truely is like before you waste any more time with him.
Best of luck to you hon.
Aw I'm soo sorry! Well, first off, your boyfriend's a d*ck. I mean, a text message? AND letting his ex sleep over? It's best that you just move on. You're better than that and you don't need him. You seriously deserve better.
You'll get through this. He obviously wasn't the right guy for you. I know it's hard, but you seriously don't need this. There's someone out there who WILL treat you right and would never think of hurting you like this.
Best wishes!
He's not worth you. obviously you were too good for him and ready for a relationship that his immaturity was not ready for. don't feel like your at fault for this, men can be pigs. show him that you are over it and that he hasn't crossed your mind, even if it is fake. that way he doesn't feel like he can walk all over you again. and if you do want to ever get back with him, and him with you. do it on your own time and terms.
Awww you poor thing! First of all, that guy's a JERK! And a COWARD! He probably broke up with you on text message because he's too scared of telling you in person. Also to get back with that b**** of an ex he had. I'm sure you're crushed! But then think of how he chickened out on breaking up with you over a TEXT!! obviously a jerk. and his EX girlfriend probably gave him what he wanted, making him think that she wanted him back, so he would break up with you, and she would get him back. But think that she cheated om him bad before, and most probably will cheat again. Then watch him go back to you begging for forgiveness, and you'll be over him, and tell him '; you went back with her, knowing she cheated, and now you're back. You're an idiot!'; Plus, who needs a guy like that? you deserve a good guy who adores you. One day, you'll be so glad that he broke up, because you'll have the perfect man with you, and not some dummy who just wants a good time.
You're better without this bum. He's going to lose this new girl like he lost you, and die an angry, bitter old version of a man cat-lady.
Guys are like toilets, occipied or full of *stuff*
Nothing hurts more than realising he meant everything to you, but you meant nothing to him.
A friend is like a flower,
a rose to be exact,
Or maybe like a brand new gate
that never comes unlatched.
A friend is like an owl,
both beautiful and wise.
Or perhaps a friend is like a ghost,
whose spirit never dies.
A friend is like a heart that goes
strong until the end.
Where would we be in this world
if we didn't have a friend.
(A true friend will always be there for you to love and support you (and through times like you're going through now))
Does it feel like your heart is ripped in two
And your days seem O so blue?
Have you given all your heart
Only to see it torn apart?
Do you feel he or she does not care
As if you were never there?
Do you feel you can't trust again
And left in continual pain?
Do you feel you must face tomorrow
All alone, with so much sorrow?
There is hope my friend for you today
Stop and listen, don't walk away
There's someone who loves you very much
It's not a lie, you'll see as such
There are things you can't change in any way
But you can talk to a friend night or day
Someone will came to heal your broken heart
And they will help you find a brand new start
All I can say is that you deserve someone better. I'm sorry this happened to you and all the best
he is immature. clearly. doesn't care about anyone about himself. I got hurt, and bad, I closed the door on him, and he tried to bang it down, I told him to **** off and laughed from the other side, loudly, was sad inside anyway, as you will be. I met someone better, as you will. Still think about the selfish immature ex, but there are so many of them, think of it that way, does he REALLY matter as much as you think? its not even original.. I dunno, that worked for me.
Besides, the new guy will be crazy about you, watch.
Obviously this guy doesn't mean what he says, and he's leading you on. He probably still has feelings for his ex, and apparently he might not get over them. I know you guys have been together a LONG time, but maybe it's not meant to last longer than that. I would NOT tolerate that.
Hey there, rejection can be very painful and it sounds as though this has been very abrupt for you. All of those feelings (questioning whether it's really over, confusion, helplessness, anger, a sense of loss) are normal and expressing them helps you to heal. In painful situations, it helps to try and think as if you were your own best friend. What would a best friend say to you about this situation? Probably things like express your feelings to family and friends that you can trust to listen, let it out, allow yourself to grieve, then clear away negative thoughts and remind yourself of your strengths, spend time with your friends and alone doing things you enjoy and look ahead to a healthy and happy romantic relationship in your future. A man who doesn't want you is no good to you! Take care.
I can sympathized with you because I have been through the same thing, it's hard but I know you can get through it because you sound like a strong person. Don't give up on love because of your ex- because he didn't deserve you anyway!
Oh, sweetie, bless your heart!!! I know this is horrible and hard and you feel like you've been sucker-punched...and, in truth, you have been.
I'm so sorry you had to find out this way that he's not really the guy for you. I hope you will find the strength within you to get through this and know that you are better off without him, even though it doesn't seem like it right now.
Please, I know this part might sound cruel, but you might think about being tested for an STD (his old girlfriend...you said ';she'd cheated on him badly';...you need to be tested for your safety's sake).
And please, realize, NONE of this was your fault at all!
God bless and heal you.
I am so sorry you are going through this. I've been there and I know it's just about the worst kind of pain there is and it's probably going to hurt for a while. Its ok to be sad, you lost someone important to you. But honesty, he doesn't deserve you and you will eventually find someone who respects you like you do them. He's a loser...he lied to you, and he shouldn't have been hanging out with his ex at all...Talk to some friends, hang out, go shopping...just stay occupied. It will get easier with time. Trust me. I was in your shoes, but now I am in a loving relationship with someone who adores me. You'll find that oneday... Good luck and stay strong!
he left the person he loved to the person he liked sooner or later she'll leave him for the one she loves then he'll know wat kinda hell u went through juss hang in thier ur a woman...women are superior than men cas their always gonna be a guy to fall on his knees for u? aight? hang in thier!!
This is an interresting letter because you didn't actually say why you broke up. I would move on if the guy is this unstable. Proabably not ment to be in the first place. I would start a hobby or do some gardening or something to keep your mind occupied. There will be more men and better relationships. I would not jump right into another relationship either. Take your time, breathe.
yea for the first person to answer...i think.lol, anwaytext message breakups r gay, remember that, so if he wants u back he better hav a nice apology.whatever u do dont yell or scream at him.my friend did that for the heck of it.bad.idea.anyway, get way too involved in things u hav now, like work school, friends [now u can go to clubs woo!]and another good thing is find sumthing u know vaguely of, and get interested in it...like..baking pastries, archery, anime, a library, photography, fashion designing, drawing, singing, music making, sewing, the list just goes on. anyway ask me more questins or anything just email me at hodgesabrina@yahoo.com
It's a tough situation. Go out and do something fun with your friends. Get a new guy and bring him over and rub it in his face, you'll feel better. If you really love him, sit down with him and talk to him. Ask him to please tell you what's going on with the ex, and you won't get mad, but you love him and want to know what's going on. Throw in some sweet stuff. Or you can take a day to cry, eat chocolate, and watch sad movies. But the next day, you gotta suck it up and move on. Don't think about him. Don't look at his house. Find something to take up your time. Breakups hurt SO much, I know. Pull through it and find someone great. Best of luck to you.
Aw, I'm so sorry, that really sucks. You are I am guessing (18-23) I would just relax and spend some alone time, and recollect, and after that I would call him so you can have closure because breaking up over a txt is terrible, and he is not a real man if he did that, I believe everything will be ok, even thou it's not ok with that person, I believe you will find someone new, and be just as happy, well I hope I didnt make things worse, and I hope you take care of yourself,
Deep Regards,
Fitz
Love sucks, doesn't it?
Don't worry, there's someone out there for you better than that hypocritical jerk.
what does not kill you will make you stronger. Whatever you do do not try to blame anybody (include yourself) you will get over this, and you always have to remember that perfection doesn't exist.
that sucks... it really does, i went through the same thing but we somehow patched things up
honestly, with that much pain.. you cant really find any encouraging words other than the usual ';your better than that'; and ';you'll get through it! you dont need him';
that may be true however, you really dont need a guy like that.. especially after 2 years..
a girl who would stay with me for 2 years id think is something special.. some guys dont get that.. a **** aint gonna cook for you when your tired... a **** aint gonna say she loves you and not expect money back.. a **** aint gonna wake up next to you with loving eyes..
eh i dono maybe im a romantic...
but..
to be honest, it will hurt.. its going to for a few months and it WILL get easier to cope.. for right now.. cry.. really just cry, the sooner you get those tears out the better... give yourself some time to cry, it helps!
once your done with tears, just give yourself sometime.. you will probably be thinking about all the good times and wonder how it couldve gone wrong..
but if a guy would leave after two years like that, then something must have gone wrong.. and you should know you dont need him..
those past 2 years werent a waste.. you learned.. you learned about those types of guys and you learned what you can offer in a relationship..
i dono.. i have a feeling nothing i or anyone else on here would say that can encourage with that pain in your heart...
OH! ... dont give up on guys... i dono your sexual preference if your bi or not but... dont let one moron make a bad name for us guys.. us guys who would rather be with a lady like you then a ho like her... and to be fair.. that happened to me with my first gf..
Best of luck to ya!! *hugs
Let it hurt for a bit. that way when you move on ,you can move on. Your a good looking young woman and have more going on than he does. It sounds like his loss and some other guys luck to me.( when he was worried about you cheating on him it was a sign) O-O-O
i know this is painful situation you are going through. i broke up with my gf earlier this summer. not fun!
dump him and don't look back! if he cheated on you, you should move on. seriosly, him breaking things off was a blessing! imagine if this continued without him ever breaking up with you. you would be even more upset.
this guy is not worth it. spend time with friends and family and forget this guy. you will be better off, since he can't be trusted.
you will meet someone better! i promise!
Well, he seems like a kind of confused guy with what you say about him. Why would you want a guy that is a bum and lives with his dad? Forget about that stupid guy and get a new one that knows how much of a relationship successor you can be! ; )
People are jerks. I'm really sorry to hear about this... That really sucks. Just tell yourself, ';He wasn't even worth my time.';
I'm kinda sad too right now. To many almost girlfriends or something like that. Stuck in an Ok boring marriage.
Maybe take a vacation.
I'm considering that.
Try to keep busy. It will keep your mind off of the pain.
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