Dated a terrible girl, couldnt get erection. Any advice?

I had my first girlfriend at age 23 about a year ago. I was very sexually inexperianced and this girl was 22 and a total speeding train. She told me about sex with her ex-boyfriends and she expected sex after only a few weeks of dating. As a virgin, all this did was put major pressure on me. I felt like I had to prove myself to her though sex. I never really got very aroused around her, only 50% erections if anything. I was so damn nervous about performing, it killed me. I also didnt like her as a person. She wasnt ugly, she was hot.





Finally one night we tried to have sex and I just couldnt get it up at all. It was totally dead. We broke up about 1 month later and never had sex.


I went to two Urologists, they tested me and everything is fine they told me. Now all I do is worry about my next performance with a girl. Its really killing me. BTW I can get erections through masturbation. Can anyone offer some advice for this tragedy??Dated a terrible girl, couldnt get erection. Any advice?
it is NOT a tradgedy - don't worry.... just wait until you find the right person, and everything will be okay -





not every woman is a 'total speeding train' -





sounds like you may have 'performance anxiety' - look it up, it is VERY commonDated a terrible girl, couldnt get erection. Any advice?
First girl at 23 shes hot, a bimbo and no erection and doc says your healthy = your gay
Well you say you did,nt like her as a person, so there,s your answer right there. Hope she did,nt ruin you for life, that would just be sad.
some ppl just subconsciously know that they hate the person or that they don't want to have sex...that could be your problem
go out with people who have a good attitude, and you actually LIKE them, not just hot people
Sound like you have been using your hand for too long. Watch some exotic por*os and try to get aroused by the visuals. Then maybe the next time you're with a girl you will get excited. Also, try using her hand and not our own to get aroused. Tell her what you like and what turns you on beforehand.
When you find the right person she won't pressure you. As long as you are comfortable and relaxed everything will come naturally.
wow that really is terrible, you just need to find a girl who turns you on, dont worry about performance, if you tell her your a virgin then she's gonna understand we've all been there lol, next maybe a girl could give you head , just close your eyes and relax, i love the feeling of a penis growing hard in my mouth lol, so im sure its not a problem... or trying watching porn together, or right before you see a girl and dont masterbate so youve got that pent up energy....in the end its all about being comfortable, theres no pressure first time isnt a big deal.
it was a blessing in disguise=you said you were a virgin and she was well experienced==well, she could have had a disease,and you would have gotten it
i really liked this guy and he has the same problem


i still really like him but i realize it was just too soon


if you meet a girl you really like (a girl that is so fast and easy)


then she wont care whether you can get hard or not and it will take the pressure of u


dont worry about it


its kinda silly
More than likely you had performance anxiety. She made you feel bad by bragging about her ex-boyfriends and that can cause a lot of anxiety. If you're trying too hard and not really into the moment but all caught up in trying to perform well, it just won't work. You have to really be honestly, truly horney to get it up. Find someone who won't pressure you so much and let it come naturally.