Need advice to get out?

My husband is chronically ill and has more bad days than good. Problem - he takes his bad days out on me and my kids (not from our marriage). Blames everything on me. This has been going on for several years and I have been doing my best to take care of him. I finally hit the last straw of abuse. I need to get out. Problem, will not take my kids to a shelter, no money to move, no family to help. Do not fall into the category of Domestic Violence so no assistance there either. The abuse is so mental that I never have a happy day and this has been going on for the last 6 years. I work full time and take care of my kids (and his too). I can't do it any more. I can't save money because I broke my back over a year 1/2 ago and my new salary doesn't even compare. Unfortunately I'm about $5.00 over the limit for any public assistance. Can someone give me any advice to get out? I've reached the brink and just want to be with me and my kids. I can't take care of him anymore! Please help!Need advice to get out?
I would go to the public assistance place. Talk to someone who can help. They can help you to get a place. It will be hard but for the kids sake if your not happy the kids are not happy.Be careful try do things without your husband knowing you want to leave he make try to stop you. Try to save money seperate yours and his if you can.Stop credit cards that are both of your names that way he cannot run up a bill on you. goodluck.Need advice to get out?
Who said that mental abuse is not domestic abuse, you should be able to take yourself and your children to the shelter and if not talk to a Social Worker there and tell the abuse is great, it's mentally draining you to the point of despair. Play the part so that they can help you , you owe it to your children and yourself. Because if you are not there who will take care of your little ones. Have faith things will fall into place.





Good Luck
try talking to your creditors if possible that you might be a lil behind on your bills. don't pay them and move!!!!





personally tho, i would just not pay the bills and use my income to setup shop elsewhere. get a 1 bedroom if needed and you and the kids just be all up under eachother for a while. which under the circumstances wont be bad because you all will need the extra hugs and kisses for a while.
My mother did and we turned out fine. If your not happy neither will your kids. We didn't have the best things in life but we were together and happy.


Take care of you and the kids.



do you have any family members that can help you out until you can get back on your feet?





What about some friends?
I live in a 4 bedroom home by myself. Bring it on.
$5.00 over the limit... take a few sick days, and try again.



Start budgeting, if it was years that he has been doing this, you could have started a fund. If you care about his kids, you'll want to get them out of their too. Start saving now, if he isn't passed by then, you will be able to get on with your life. He is frustrated from his illness, but you need to say something to him and express how you feel. If he doesn't hit you, then what are you scared of? Him calling you names? You need to grow up and confront him! Just make it clear to him you won't put up with it anymore and see what he does. If he doesn't change, then go move! If you work full-time, then you have income, you just have to make sacrafices and if you really want to move you will make a way. I don't believe it is so bad or you would have left a long time ago! You don't put up with it for 6 years and then decide one day you need to go because he is verbally abusing you. You would have left by now. Instead of buying new clothes, you would have been saving for your own place. Your kids need out of there! Good luck!
Do you have any friends that you could stay with ?


If not then my advice to you would be since your husband is chronically ill you could check into getting him admitted in to a nursing home where they can give him the care he need and he will be out from under you .


I'm not exactly sure how it works , I've never been faced with a chronically ill husband . But if need be get a power of attorney over him where you can admit him in to a nursing home .


While he's in the nursing home you can then decide from there if you want to follow through with a divorce .


Just make it known that you can no longer care for him . your children , your home and hold down a full time job .


Best of luck to you and your children .